Santa Clara Vanguard 2012 - Music of The Starry Night
This is why they’re the best and my favorite
to the anon who send me a consoling ask, it did help. i’m saying so here instead just so i don’t push my stuff in everyone’s faces haha and also it’s easier to find in the askbox. but yeah thanks so much for the message :)
omg thank you!! u///u
you should come off anon so we can be friends! :)
flamingos really piss me off like what the hell are they doing??????
lookin 4 tha party
FROM ME TO YOU:
Please stop all this hate.
We aren’t like your oppressors.
We want to help.
Don’t push us away.
There are so many more friendships to be made.
This is well intentioned, I know.
But let me make this clear: YOU do not get to decide whether or not your actions are oppressive. YOU do not get to decide whether or not you are a good ally. YOU benefit from homophobia and heteronormativity and transphobia every single day, whether you want to or not. You benefit from that and it is very likely that you are complicit in those systems without even realizing it. This is normal, but it is true.
If you look at LGBTQIAP+ who don’t play nice with you, you don’t cry about how mean they are being. For many of us, treating cis hetero people with default distrust is a survival mechanism. You need to understand that. You want to be an ally? Then you don’t start crying when the people you want to help don’t treat you like a delicate flower.
Being a good ally is listening. Posts like this? Aren’t listening. Posts like this are busting onto the stage and trying to make it about you, bargaining for your support.
Do not call me by “person-first”
I am not a “person with autism”
I am an autistic person.
I am a queer person
I am not a person with autsim, I am not a person with queerity
Autism is just as much a part of me as being queer
And it is not bad, and I am not ashamed
So why divorce it from myself linguistically?
Autism is not with
Autism is is
It does not follow me like some sort of tagalong puppy that sometimes piddles on the floor
It does not shadow me like some dark cloud
I am autistic. I have autism.
I am queer. I have queerness.
Both of these are equal parts of my identity, and they will not change.
With implies leaving
Implies potential to change
I will not change
I will not “person-first” myself so you can shove my autism to the side
And focus only on the parts of me that you agree with.
discovering your gender is like putting on a warm fluffy sweater for the first time and then just smiling because it fits you so well
but then having to wear some other tight, itchy shit every day because the world just fucking hates your sweater so much
How about instead of shouting at people that “We’re not all like that!” You just make sure it’s known that YOU are not like that.